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Would you want to be friends, or housemates, with yourself?
Posted on Aug 22nd, 2007
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Gemstar
Gemstar
This is in Response to the Questions and Reflections for August 22, 2007:
If I met someone exactly like myself, we would probably get along fine UP TO THE POINT of having them move in. The major reason I have not even attempted to live with another person (other than family) in the last 15 years, is that I realize some of those character traits that I hold near and dear to me would definitely drive another person up the wall - and I think, if I had to live with "me" and all my quirks, I'd probably go clear up the wall, too. Hard enough living with "me" in the first person, let along in the second person.
I did live with my parents about 12 years ago for almost a year, and just before my Mom died this year, she made it quite clear that if I were to come home to take care of her, I'd have to find an apartment of my own, because she (my own Ma!) just couldn't live with me. Fine for a visit up to maybe a week - but after that she said she was very glad to see my back. I understand completely what she said.
I did live with my parents about 12 years ago for almost a year, and just before my Mom died this year, she made it quite clear that if I were to come home to take care of her, I'd have to find an apartment of my own, because she (my own Ma!) just couldn't live with me. Fine for a visit up to maybe a week - but after that she said she was very glad to see my back. I understand completely what she said.
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You are truly a gem! Thanks for starting my day with a smile.
Your blog feels like one of my trouble a long time ago.
I came from a small and simple country, Vietnam, life there was so easy. The entire family gathers in one roof. The neighbors gather in one community. We all share everything we got, even our thoughts and troubles. When I came to this part of the world, I've found such loneliness. People are hidden behind closed doors. No one seems to care to be friend with you. I was so confused for years by that separateness. Then I've got adapted to the life style. I feel OK with that separateness now. I have learned to claim everything to myself. Everything is just me, me and me, consume, consume and consume. Such an opposite of what was. The complexity of this part of the world has created a new me, I've got to say a trouble one.
Is it time for me to get back what I have lost???
Hi Helen: Glad to put a smile on your face anytime ;-)………
Hi Tuan: You asked “Is it time for me to get back what I have lost???” Well, only you can know for sure, but what of that which you have gained from the experience of having learned the lesson of being alone would you be willing to give up, in order to reverse the time or the loss? It is only complex if you choose it to be complex - it is the resistance to what is, that makes it complex for you. Just some thoughts for you to ponder for a while.
Cheers!
Gem